Personality Boner

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Do you have a type?

Sexual attraction is a complex feeling. Some people have a very specific list of features that they like and even require. Massive thighs, firm bellies, hairless bodies, and dark skin color are just a few of the many things a person can hone in on. We all have that friend who only gets hard for a specific ethnicity and everyone knows a guy who refuses to date someone his own age. Those guys tend to be very consistent and it becomes very easy to pick out possible matches for them. For them it’s an easy equation A+B=C or rather Age+Beard=Cock. Then there are those of us who don’t take such a direct route. I tend to have a very broad range when it comes to guys. Personality is always the number one key factor that makes it or breaks it for me. A guy can be a perfect specimen of physical manliness but he can lose it all with a beige personality. In fact I think most of the guys who say they don’t have a type fall into the same category as me. It’s not that we don’t have a type it’s that our type isn’t only physical.

Whenever I talk about this people will often easily agree with the theory because all of us  would agree that a shitty attitude can be a real boner killer. Where I think I tend to be unique is that personality can also easily overcome physical short comings. Not only is a bad attitude a turn off but a good attitude can also be a turn on. So much so that I know a guy who isn’t my usual body “type” but his upbeat positive attitude makes me want to rip his clothes off every time I see him.

A good example to illustrate this revolves around my experience with two couples. Although one couple is from Texas and the other from the northeast, they both follow surprisingly similar story lines. It’s actually uncanny how similar they are. In both cases I saw them from afar before actually being introduced. At a distance I instantly zoned in on the chubbier guy as the hotter of the two. He was more classically my type you’d say. It’s not that the smaller guy(s) was ugly, it was just that he didn’t really stand out and grab my attention the way his partner did. After a while I was introduced to and became friends with both couples and had a gradual but drastic change of opinion. As I got to know them it became apparent that the smaller guy was friendly, easy-going, and fun to be around. (Definite boner points) Unfortunately his partner was painfully shy and even a little socially awkward. Looking back on it I can’t imagine why I was ever attracted to the chubbier guy. Not only has the smaller guy(s) become super sexy but I’ve lost any and all boners for his chubbier partner. His attitude was so bad that it actually erased any attraction I ever had. Over the years I’ve noticed this as an ongoing trend in my life. The people I tend to notice the quickest lose my attention just as quick. However the guys that I might take longer to notice also keep my attention much longer.

It should also be said that one man’s trash is another man’s treasure. Personally I love big outgoing personalities. Friends have pointed out that I even have a high tolerance for cocky pricks. With that said there are many guys who hate that and much prefer the shy and quiet. I have a friend that specifically likes the awkward guys. The more awkward the better. Yes a great personality can drastically change how you look at someone but exactly how you define “great” can be different from person to person.

So do you have a very specific type or can a personality win over any physical measurement or characteristic?

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