TBRU is fun but it can also be overwhelming. Here are some insider tips to help you make the most of your weekend:

1. #Giveback- If you’re new to TBRU a great way to meet people is by picking up a couple volunteer shifts. You get to help out and chat up the fellow volunteers and run goers all at the same time. This is also a great way to meet new people if your sick of seeing only the same faces.

2. #OraQuick- Know your status. It’s a wonderful weekend filled with (the possibility of) sex with guys you’ve just met. Protect them and yourself.

3. #Disconap- You won’t want to miss a second of the action but taking a short nap will save you in the long run. Your body needs time to rest. You don’t want to pull a muscle and get lock jaw on the second day do you?

4. #Drunkandhungry- When you’re on Cedar Springs and you’re hungry for a slice remember one simple rule: Zini’s NO. Italia Express YES.

5. #Goodiewithahoodie- Dallas in March is tough weather to pack for. Most likely it’ll be near 70 but it could get up in the 80s or down in the 40s. Most bears live in shorts in any weather above 55 degrees, but trust me when I tell you to bring a hoodie and a pair of jeans.

6. #Lessismore Take an inventory of your bathing suit wardrobe. This is one of the few instances where you can break out the super tight and skimpy square cuts that are obscene in straight society. As a reminder: before you buy those blue Old Navy trunks with the white stripe down the side remember that you’ll see at least 10 other bears in the same ones.

7. #Patientsisavirtue- When you walk in a bar don’t automatically go to the first bar you see. The front bar will always have the longest lines. Keep walking toward the back or upstairs (when available) to bars that most people miss. This is especially important if you are opening up a tab. You may have to walk farther but trust me it will be a lot quicker.

A quick guide:
S4– 6 bars total. 4 down and 2 up. The bars to the left and right as you walk in are always insanely busy. The Rose Room upstairs is your best bet. You’ll also find extra bathrooms there.
TMC– 3 total. Two inside and one out on the back patio. The patio bar gets the least traffic. 
JR’s– 3 Total. 2 down. 1 up. The upstairs bar has a great balcony to overlooks Cedar Springs. 
Woody’s– 2 Bars, one on each level. Go upstairs for shorter lines.
The Round Up– 5 total. Walk around to check but the bar along the back wall is generally the least busy.
The Eagle– The back bar is often overlooked. Tip: it can also be accessed from outside on the patio.
Crowne Plaza Hospitality suite:  Two bars along the back walls on either side. There is also usually a table toward the front door serving punch sponsored by a local bear group.

8. #Badgeofhonor- Friday night’s BearDance at S4 is always my favorite event of the whole  weekend. This year it’ll be a glow party filled with black lights and glow sticks. Tip: Be sure to wear a freshly laundered shirt if you don’t want everyone to see the evidence of the Lewinsky you pulled that afternoon.

9. #Truestory- There will be plenty of hot gogo bear dancers at BearDance. Make sure to tip them well because all the tips go to charity. #seriously

10. #Throatcoat- Don’t get sick. Start taking Airborne now to prevent any colds before vacation and to build up your immunity once you are here. Also if you are prone to allergies bring extra doses of medication. I’ve seen a lot of friends sidelines simply from sinuses. You don’t want your drink of the weekend to be Robitussin.

11. #Ishouldbedrinkingrightnow- TBRU offers a lot of extra trips and mini events throughout the weekend. Some are great and some are dreadful:

-The “Spa” trip to Club Dallas (aka the bathhouse) can be fun if is extra hot and the pool outside is open. Apart from swimming naked the action is hit or miss. It’s not a definite skip but don’t feel bad if you miss it.
-The Mr. TBRU contest can be fun for about 15 minutes. Unfortunately it takes hours. Seriously. Stop in an check it out but I wouldn’t plan on staying for the whole thing.
-The excursions to aquariums, breweries, and such can be a lot of fun if you’re interested in it and you’re feeling touristy. Judge those on a case by case basis.

12. #Sardines- The Hidden Door on Sunday is fun but gets so packed it borders on annoying. Beware if you don’t like large crowds. Come to think of it, if you don’t like large crowds you’d probably avoid the whole weekend.

Oscar Red Carpet Predictions

The Oscars are exactly one week away. Stylists throughout Hollywood are scheduling final fittings and consultations for all their red carpet clients. Coincidentally we are also in the middle of Fall 2014 Fashion weeks around the globe. New York, Milan, and London have wrapped and Paris starts this Wednesday. I picked 18 looks from the Spring and Fall collections that I think we’ll see on the Oscar red carpet. I paired each dress up with the actress that I think should/would wear it. Some of the dresses are what I hope they wear (example Cate Blanchett) and some are what I think they will wear (example Sandra Bullock). I’ll report back after the awards to see how I did. One note: You’ll notice I didn’t pick a dress for Jennifer Lawrence or Charlize Theron. Both actress are under contract with Dior so they get custom made gowns for every event. Tune in to the Oscars on ABC Sunday March 2nd.

Sandra Bullock
Cate Blanchett


Julie Roberts
Emma Thompson

Angelina Jolie
Anne Hathaway
Amy Adams
Lupita Nyong’o

Taylor Swift
Zoe Saldana

Jane Fonda
Sally Hawkins

Helen Mirren
Jessica Chastain
Jennifer Lopez
Gwyneth Paltrow

Kerry Washington

Meryl Streep

Basic Instinct

Recently I took over a task at work that had been done by the same person for many years. She had gotten a new job in another department and my training was rushed to say the least. Because she had done it for so many years, all the knowledge was in her head rather than in a manual. So a lot of my inquiries as to why things were done a certain way were answered with a “because that’s the way it’s always been done” sort of answer. After I took it over all the higher ups decided this was a good opportunity to really inspect this process for any opportunities. As I said there was a real lack of solid instruction so I had to just learn as I went and as I went I learned there was a lot to learn.

Two months into this new task and I still don’t feel 100% comfortable. Everything with regard to this task is highly regulated by the state and audited as part of a much larger year end self easement. So any of me hesitations are only magnified by true consequences. One of the on going problems is that when I have a question about procedure no one knows the answer. It’s the blind leading the blind. The audit has been going on this week and mistakes are surfacing from the previous year. Luckily all of the mistakes were from before I took over but it made our department look bad none the less. The metaphorical shit hit the fan.

Not surprisingly I got an invite to a late Friday afternoon meeting to discuss the errors uncovered in the audit. A meeting late in the afternoon on a Friday is never a good sign. My dread was supported shortly there after when I got a string of emails asking if I had saved certain emails and communications about specific topics. To me that sounded like I was going to be asked to defend myself in the court of office politics. While I stayed calm on the outside I instantly went into defensive survival mode in my head. Although I knew all my actions had gotten management approval I still had a very bad gut feeling about this up coming meeting.  I had a strong suspicion I would be thrown under the bus as the scapegoat. I never thought my job was in serious jeopardy but there was definitely doom looming in the air. In my head I was already preparing my defensive arguments.

When 3 o’clock on Friday came I went into the small conference room armed with printed emails to use in my defense. As the managers all trickled in most were lamenting about what a tiring week it had been with the auditors around. Once we got started I was surprised at how relax and understanding everyone was being. It was not the finger pointing tone I expected but rather a group effort to understand and fix any problems. Everyone openly admitted that we were all doing the best we could and in this case that usually meant making it up as we went along. They wanted to use the meeting to go over the audit so we all could use it as a learning tool for next time. Every gut instinct I had expecting doom was totally wrong. They couldn’t have been more supportive and understanding. I was even surprised at their honestly about their own short comings. One women said,  “Even if you have a question, most of us wouldn’t know the answer anyway.”

I left the meeting feeling revealed and yet foolish. Why did I instantly go into defense mode when no one had ever said I was in trouble? I quickly realized what I thought was my instinct was really misplaced fear left over from my previous employer. Despite having left retail almost 4 years ago, the experience still has an effect on me. For many years I worked in an atmosphere where all of my above mentioned instincts would not only have been correct but understated. It was a company that pitted one person against another and very often good people were fired due to the whim of the manager of the moment. If they couldn’t fire you they would use every tool possible to force you to quit. To give you an idea of the level of dysfunction, during my time there I worked under a store manager, district manager, regional manager, and regional loss prevention manager who were all fired for wrong doing. (theft, sex with associates etc) So to say I lacked guidance from an honest leadership team in the past is an understatement. That feeling of doom came from so many store visits where I was made to feel like everything I did was being cross examined by a jury and I better have a good defense ready to avoid punishment.  I left work Friday afternoon with a smile on my face. I was thankful for being employed by honest people who all working together to try and do the best job possible. I also laughed at myself for going so overboard in my head.

This just proves that not all instincts can be trusted. So the next time the outcome of a situation seems certain because you just know it, take a moment to think about any previous trauma or drama that may skew your perceptions. Sometimes our perceptions and impressions are as much to blame as actual actions.

Who do you think you are?

If you ask most people about labels you’ll most often get an automatic politically correct answer that is something akin to “People shouldn’t be labeled. We are all humans and should be treated as individuals.” That sounds good in speech but gets muddy when applied to real life. Rather than get into a long discussion about society, stereotypes, and generalizations I’m much more curious about the labels we give ourselves. More specifically how accurate are the labels we give ourselves. As an example: I’m effeminate with a gay voice. I’m neither butch nor masculine. If there was ever a gay census and I had to choose masculine or effeminate I’d choose the latter without thinking. People who know me personally may say I fall in the middle but I don’t agree with their judgement. So who is right? Is my self image out of date and based more on childhood benchmark moments than adult behavior? I wonder if my experience as the girlie gay youngster has cemented my mental image of myself regardless of who I am now. Or am I totally accurate? It’s hard to say but I’d still put all my money on a proud nelly any day.

This phenomena is easiest to see when you ask people about their body image. Wendy Williams often refers to herself as “Once a fatty always a fatty.” By that she means she grew up as a chubby kid and therefore will always identify as a fat person for the rest of her life regardless of weight shifts. It’s a common feeling amongst people who have struggled with weight and I myself fall into this category. Even though I lost about 25-30lbs last year I will always think of myself as being part of the fat boy brotherhood. On the flip side it may take decades for someone who has always been thin to start to see themselves as fat.

As we grow and change it’s easy for our self perception to get stuck in a moment in time. How many 40 and 50 year old guys still label themselves as cubs? I’m 32 and I’ve already started to make the switch to bear. One piece of advice, don’t try to call those senior cubs out. Your truth bomb will almost always be met with intense anger and shame. Personally I can’t wait until I reach daddy status. Hot daddy bears have untold amounts of power. Most of the hottest guys I know all go gaga over a hot daddy. Yet a lot of men in the daddy age bracket refuse to own the label. My friend (and hot daddy) Punk once shared some wisdom with me. In his late 40’s, he loves to work the daddy angle to get all the horny cubs he can and it works… very well. He admitted though he doesn’t think of himself that way and instead feels like a 20 year old inside. His rationale though was a BJ from a hot guy is always a BJ from a hot guy regardless of what labels are used. If you’ve got to think of him as a daddy to get off then he’ll play the part.  

The next time you are filling out your Growlr profile or describing yourself to a new mate take a moment and think about that blurb you’ve been using for years. Most of it is probably still true but are there any areas that need updating? Do you claim versatility despite not having topped in 10 years? Are you to afraid to accept chub status even though you just bought size 43 pants? None of these labels are good or bad. It’s purely how we think of them in our own minds. So even though I like to think of myself as a chubby bear queen with too much sass and style I might actually just be an average middle of the road cub who owns too many pairs of New Balance sneakers. Gasp!


Kansas City Crazy

If I asked you a week ago to describe Kansas what would you say? What hashtags would you give it? #Farms #Boring #Squarestate #Flyoverstate #Corn #DorothyandToto #IknownothingaboutKansas

Kansas is simply one of those states that doesn’t really have a strong reputation beyond Dorothy and Toto. If I asked you to pick out Kansas on a blank map could you do it? Not being know for anything isn’t always a bad thing though. It means there’s still the possibility of making a great first impression. Example: Iowa. The American public knows as much about Iowa as it does about Kansas. Maybe even less. However Iowans gave a great first impression to the nation when they were Midwest pioneers allowing for gay marriage years before New York and California. I might not know a lot about the state but I know one very important fact that makes Iowans instantly cool. Rock on Iowa!

In a WTF moment, the crazy conservatives in Kansas drafted a bill that would allow any business or government representative to discriminate against gay people. Actually the bill is so loosely worded that the discrimination can be brought against anyone not meeting their undefined Christian standards. I picture them watching the winter Olympics in Sochi and thinking, “Ya know, those Russians are really on to something with all that gay bashing. What a good idea.” I read an Op-Ed piece in the Kansas City Star who’s headline said it all: “Discriminatory bill embarrasses Kansas” The article also mentions that the people who wrote the bill tried to do damage control by saying they only meant for the law to be applied to wedding services. For example, if you were a bakery owner you could legally refuse to sell a cake to a lesbian couple getting married. I’m so glad they clarified that…

The word segregation has been used over and over again in news stories about this bill. There aren’t many other words in the English language that bring to mind such a clear image and piece of awful American history. It’s a word so antiquated that I was surprised to see it used again in current event news. There’s a lot of headlines that are passed around the internet that can be misread or taken out of context. This is not one of those cases. This is a real life situation where a state government is trying legalize discrimination. It should be noted that the bill has not been signed into law yet so luckily there is still hope of avoiding a trip back in time to the 1950’s.

Until now Kansas has stayed under the radar for the most part. But now one of the first major news stories to circulate about them is extremely negative. We’re talking history book level negative. Without any other information to judge it against, many Americans will now associate Kansas with hatred and discrimination. If they were BP, this would be their oil spill.

Good Luck Kansas. I hope good wins out.

I also thought this would be a perfect opportunity to get to know Kansas better. Here are the basic fact and figures for the Sunflower State:

Population:  2,893,957 (2013 estimate)
Capitol:  Topeka
Largest City: Wichita
Persons per square mile: 34.9
Land area: 81,758 square miles.
Governor: Sam Brownback (until January 2015)
Entered the union in 1861 as the 34th state
Motto: To the stars through difficulties
The name Kansas comes from from a Sioux word meaning “people of the south wind.”

As a point of reference: 
City of Houston, TX population: 2,201,027 (does not include surrounding cities such as Sugar Land or The Woodlands)
City of Chicago, IL population 2,714,856

Michael Sam

I have a tremendous amount of respect for college football player Michael Sam for coming out of the closet just as his career is starting. I look up to people who are honest and true to themselves when they have the everything to lose. It might have been easier for him to come out after he was an established player or after his career was over but by coming out in the beginning he scores infinite points for honesty and integrity. With this admission he breaks through a number of long time barriers. Nay sayers have said he is just using this as a way of gaining publicity. Even if that’s true… So what? The publicity can hurt him as much as it can help him. Plus all the other players in his situation are using any number of strategies to try to get noticed. At worst he is simply playing the cards he was dealt. Well done Mr. Sam. You’re an inspiration.

On a side note: Football players do not have the best reputation for open minded acceptance. However there is hope. Sam said he told is college teammates back in August and they respected his decision and kept his secret quiet until he was ready to go public. Maybe we are wrong about football players it’s possible we haven’t given them enough credit. 

NYFW: Rodarte Does Star Wars

Fashion design duo Rodarte is best known to the general public as the team that did the costumes for the Oscar wining film Black Swan. A favorite of the fashion elite, they presented their Fall 2014 collection at New York Fashion week. The finale featured Star Wars inspired gowns. I’m not talking about a hint of sci fi flare. The gowns were covered in large scale images directly from the movie. Could this finally bond the geeks and the glamors? Love it or hate it?

View Rodarte’s full collection on Style.com

A Low Down Dirty Shame

I’ve been thinking about moving to a cheaper place so one Saturday about a month ago I headed out to preview apartment complexes. The first one I chose was in a convenient area and in my price range. As I pulled up to the leasing office I decided to drive around the complex first to get a feel for things. The buildings seemed to be well maintained and my only reservation was that the whole place was sloped on the side of a hill. As I circled through the parking lot maze I saw several tenant out and about. By the time I came full circle back to the leasing office I had passed about 6 or 7 tenants. Non of them were white. I sat in my parked car for a moment before heading to the exit and driving away. As I pulled back out onto the main road I had a very real A Ha moment. Despite all my knowledge, education, and good intentions, I’m still prejudice.

February is Black History Month. I wanted to use the opportunity to discuss bigotry. There were two topics I wanted to write about. First was the rage I’m filled with when a white person gets angry because they can’t say the N word. Second was how many bigoted people aren’t ashamed of being bigots anymore. As if it’s OK as long as they are honest about it. I decided against both topics because they could easily lead to a preachy finger pointing blame game. No one wants to be lectured especially because I shouldn’t throw stones from my glass house.

Instead I’ll point my finger and throw the stone at myself. I’ve been very honest and shared many very personal details over the last three years. However this is by far the most embarrassing story I’ve ever shared. To be clear, I’m not talking about funny self deprecating embarrassment but rather pure horrifying shame. I  forced myself to tell this story though to illustrate the larger point that even a liberal equality-for-all thinker can still make an ignorant decision. Years of a politically liberal college education couldn’t erase all the traces of prejudice from my subconscious. I took time and did some personal reflection to try and uncover what motivated my actions. Why was I so uncomfortable? Or to be more honest, I tried to find a way to justify why I felt so uncomfortable. Sadly I couldn’t come up with anything other than I was afraid it was one of “those types of places.”

The lesson I learned was that I needed to approach ignorance a different way. My gut reaction to an  insensitive remark is usually anger and annoyance. However, going forward I shouldn’t judge the judger so harshly. When you encounter bigotry I still think you should speak up and make your opinion heard. Sometimes silence can signal acceptance. Make it know that you have a difference of opinion but all the while remembering that you catch more flies with honey than vinegar. Use that moment as an opportunity for teaching rather than an opportunity for chastising. A wagging finger of disapproval never changes anyone’s mind.

Please don’t take this admission of guilt as a way of making up for it. I don’t believe I should be given a pass just because I was honest about it. The fact still remain that I made a poor decision based on unfair assumptions and fear. It’s a mistake to be learned from.

The Best Picture Race

I still consider the Academy Awards (Oscars) to be the best award show of the lot. The Academy tends to have the best track record. No one is perfect and no one can try to pick the best of the best every year with a blemish free record. There are untold amount of biases that swirl around a new movie especially during award season. Voters can get swept up in the pomp and circumstances of a contender. However once the dust settles only time will tell which movie will still be good 10+ years from now and which movies will be laughed at as a lovable loser stuck it the past. With that in mind, I’m going to try and take a step back and navigate through all the advertising and campaigning to give my honest opinion of which movie really is the best of 2014.

It should be noted I have not seen nominees Captain Phillips, Nebraska, and Philomena. However I can tell you Nebraska and Philomena’s nomination is their award. If a film that small has a chance to win Best Picture there needs to be a tremendous amount of buzz and trophies from other award shows. Sadly both are lacking in both categories.
Nominees (in no particular order)

American Hustle: American Hustle is a good movie. American Hustle is not a great movie. Part of me is sort of stunned it’s even nominated for Best Picture much less a leading contender. Then the other part of me realizes the cast is like a hand picked Oscar favorites party. (Everyone has a previous nomination. Bale and Lawrence already have a trophy at home) At best it’s a pretty good movie with weird wigs and two likable female leads. The movie centers around con artists Christian Bale and Amy Adams. Jennifer Lawrence is Bale’s nutty wife and Bradley Cooper is the CIA agent trying to catch them. Bale and Lawrence’s role are the flashiest and well done but it’s Amy Adams who delivers the best performance keeping the movie grounded. Personally I wish Adams was in the Best Supporting Actress category because that would be a no brainer. The rest of the movie is fine at best. Of all the nominees this is the best example of award season over inflation. After a year or two, or even a month or two, we’re all going to look back with the same feeling of regret that looms over the English Patient. Jennifer Lawrence’s role also needs to be addressed. She was funny and charming and I’ll admit she stole the spotlight. Does she deserve another Oscar for the performance? Absolutely not! I’ll be very disappointed if she takes home the trophy purely because she’s the It-Girl of the moment. (That already happened last year) Hopefully the Academy will see through all the glitter and wigs and realized American Hustle is just average movie with a convoluted plot and good soundtrack. 

Gravity: Gravity was a spectacular movie and tied for my favorite movie of the year. I was impressed and captivated by the space odyssey about sorrow and rebirth. I give the director credit for having the courage to feature only a single character despite the tremendous risk. Sandra Bullock proved me wrong and gave the best performance of her career. Gravity is unique and innovative. Unfortunately it’s uniqueness is what makes it a wild card and this is the one movie I’m the most unsure of how history will look back on it. On one hand, Sandra Bullock gave a very strong performance coupled with an even better screen play which leads it down the path of great movie status. On the other hand, movies that rely heavily of special/visual effects tend to expire quickly. The latest and greatest digital universe will always be outdone by the next blockbuster. I loved this movie and honestly think it’s one of the best of the year but I still have a nagging feeling that my enthusiasm might not last in years to come. While we can already see American Hustle’s over inflation, is Gravity following close behind it? Is my own judgment clouded by Bullock who I didn’t think could pull off the role so successfully? Or by the visual scope and magnitude of outer space? Or better yet by a film that dared to cast only two actors, one of which has only minimal screen time? All fare questions that I can’t answer. However I really think there is solidly good movie underneath it all the shine and spectacle that will be just as good to audiences in the future. Gravity has a very good chance at winning Best Picture which would a job well done.

Her: Spike Jonez’s quiet story about a man who falls in love with his operating system is as much a modern drama as it is a revolutionary Sci Fi look into the future. It really has no chance of winning Best Picture but I think this will be the movie that in 20 years we are still talking about and asking “How did Her lose Best Picture?” Her is tied with Gravity for my favorite movie of the year. If I had to choose one to win in 2014, the Best Picture envelope would only have three letter when opened. I’ve always been a fan of Spike Jonez because his movie are always outside the box and from an original point of view. For example, every movie where a computer gains consciousness somehow always leads to total world destruction. (See 2001: A Space Odyssey) Jonez gives us another alternative future where conscious operating systems are kind and considerate with thoughts and feelings as complex as any human. All of the director’s social and technological cometary isn’t overwhelming though. Instead it’s a pastel backdrop that frames a truly heartfelt love story. Scarlett Johansson’s voice work as Samantha is shockingly believable and layered. Joaquin Phoenix as Theodore is the every man we can all identify with who opens his heart up to an electronic devise. Amy Adams also gives a good showing as Phoenix’s (human) friend. This movie will be watched by film classes for years to come. Everything from the total lack of product placement to the deliberate costume design all left me cheering. However, to play devils advocate to myself… Her may also be the most hipster nonsense movie of all time. (Side note: the fact that Joaquin Phoenix wasn’t nominated for Best Actor is a travesty but mostly his own fault. The actor has repeatedly bad mouthed the awards in the past.

Dallas Buyers Club: Matthew McConaughey stars in this true story as an AIDS patient in the early 80’s who takes his treatment into his own hands and starts a club to gives medication and supplies that were otherwise not available. At first glance you might write this movie off as another depressing and soul crushing AIDS movie. Not true. While the story is sad, it’s more a story of empowerment and friendship. The movie is kept alive by the strong performances of McConaughey and Jared Leto. Both men are the leading contenders in their categories. Jared Leto is wonderful. WONDERFUL. He gave by far the stand out performance and deserves every award he’s won.  It doesn’t hurt their award campaign that both actors lost a tremendous amount weight to portray their dying characters. A strong true story is also a great base for any nominee. Does it deserve Best Picture though? No I don’t think so. A movie is more than two good acting jobs. This movie will get to Oscar gold via acting, not Best Picture. Side note: It also should be noted that Jennifer Garner is a bit dull as Eve the doctor. 
12 Years A Slave: Along with Gravity and American Hustle, 12 Years a Slave is the front runner for Best Picture. The movie is also based on a true story of how a free black man was kidnapped and sold into slavery. It’s a story that is historically important and very well done. Lupita Nyong’o makes her film debut and is leading the Best Supporting Actress pack with JenLaw. However, after watching 12 Years a Slave I was moved but not captivated. I don’t know how to explain it but all I can say is that I wasn’t sucked into the movie. Maybe it was due to my short attention span but it just didn’t hold my interest. If it won Best Picture I wouldn’t be upset at all. It’s a very well done movie with very strong performances just not on my personal favorites list. It will also still be as good 10 years from now. Longevity is always easier when the movie itself is set in the past. There is less to get wrong because the history is already written and known. Movie set in the current time are up against an unknown future.

The Wolf of Wall Street: I really liked the Wolf of Wall Street. Like 12 Years a Slave and Dallas Buyers Club this is also a true story however that’s where the similarities end. The film tells the story of an ambitious Wall Street stock broker who makes millions off of illegal trades. This isn’t an important story that needed to be told but it was sure fun to watch. It was fun to see a well acted and well directed movie that didn’t shy away from drugs, sex and total debauchery. (I love raunchy movies) I’m not talking about a little side boob or some off camera grunting, instead there were guys lining up to fuck a prostitute out in the open office and drug fueled orgies. There’s even a quick gay orgy scene. If I had my way, Leonardo DiCaprio would win Best Actor. He gave a great performance and he also just deserves a career Oscar for something. Jonah Hill is also perfectly cast as his sleazy wing man. I’m note sure if it deserves Best Picture but it’s a fun ride. Will it hold up in 10 years? Yes. The only thing that could hurt this movie is it’s real life main character. If news were to break that he made up all of the over the top details, the film would be left looking foolish. It has an extremely slim chance of winning but odds are that it’ll be beaten.