Oxy, Meth, Pot, Booze, Cigarettes, Heroine, Ecstasy, Ketamine, Uppers, Downers… iPhone?

The theme song for this post is You’re the Worst Thing for Me by DJ Irene

I don’t consider myself as someone who has an addictive personality but there are several things I can’t live without. Number one on my list is my phone. You can live a long and happy life without ever touching an iPhone but once your finger slides that unlock key get ready for the addiction to take over. I discovered just how obsessed I was this past week at work while processing some extensive but mindless attorney bills. Repetitive mindless computer tasks are the easiest way to fall asleep and having Rihanna playing in my ear was key to keeping me awake. Also during mini breaks, I was able Text, Facebook, Instagram, Growlr, Twitter, and Style.com. Let’s just say by the time I got home my battery was at about 20%. It’s genius is it’s simplicity and easy of use. It puts information at your finger tips. Let’s say you want to see a movie, just tap the Flixster app and it will show you movie theaters and times in your local area. I’ve become so reliant on it that I really don’t know of another way to look up movie times. Here’s another scenario: you’re on a trip in a hotel starving for some dinner but you’re to tired to go out. Open the Domino’s app and after a couple finger taps you have a freshly made pizza delivered to your door. (I’ve used that app more then I thought I would) And I’m sure I don’t have to tell you the wonderfullness that is Tumblr.

I first got an iPhone about 3 years ago when I was a unhappy Sprint customer who was ready to jump ship. At the time Droids and iPhones were almost the exact same price. In the end, I decided to go with the Apple because if I was going to spend all that money I wanted to real deal and not an impostor. Droids are wanna-be iPhones. Apple did it first and did it the best leaving droids behind to play catch up.

Obviously the iPhone is not my only vise.
-One could make the case that shopping is one of my addictions. Although I would laugh at and say, “I can stop anytime I want…”
-I’ve been addicted to a person. It’s rare but when you meet someone so intoxicating and charismatic you’ll completely understand.

What are you addicted to?


Turn Off- Bad Attitudes

I did some digging to bring example of what not to put in your Growlr profile. However, I’m happy to report that it was hard finding examples of bad profiles. It wasn’t impossible but it was hard. For the most part, most guys choose to leave their profile’s pretty blank and I totally support that. It’s better to say nothing then say something stupid. During my investigation I decided to include a couple a good profiles to show how easy it can be to put your best foot forward. So enjoy some good, some bad, and some stupid profiles.
BAD: Be careful with loading up with all
negatives.Starting out with Turn offs can
be a turn off.
BAD: This is very taste specific. One in a
hundred guys may find it charming. The rest
will roll their eyes and move on.
GOOD: This is a great example of say what
you like instead of being negative. ‘I like big
boys’ is better then ‘No twinks.’
BAD: This one speak for itself. Is there
any question who the bitchy douche is?
GOOD: Short yet descriptive. He gets extra
points for being upfront with his relationship
BAD: If your going to be offensive at
least spell it correctly. Really dude?
GOOD: Short and simple. If you don’t have
much to say don’t force it.
BAD: The text of this profile is ok. It lands
on the bad list because the full length is 2
screens long. Stop typing!

A couple general tips:
– Bad attitudes aren’t a turn on to anyone, you do not need to specify that it’s a turn off.
– You’re going to get messages from people you’re not attracted to. Deal with it. You can fill your profile with all the Do’s and Don’ts but the creepers with still sneak through.


If you’re reading this there’s a good chance you’re a bear or at least you hang out with bears. There’s also a good chance that you like beefy guys that have beefy bellies. There is a natural overlap in the bear and chub communities. I love a big hot man with a big hot belly. If you ask any chubby lover one of the hottest parts of a man is the bottom curve of his belly over his waist band. (a big beefy butt is also a plus) Like my friend Bob once said, “Being fat is more fun.” There is a large portion of the gay community that agrees with everything I’ve said so far and I probably follow all of them of Tumblr. I know some of you agree with me because there was a whole conversation at last weekend’s party about how much better a guy looks now that he’s gained weight. (Side note: He looks FUCKING HOT!)

With the flags waiving for bear pride and chubby pride, one things still fascinates me. Maybe I took one to many Sociology classes but I’ve always been interested in the reasons behind other people’s opinions. There is one word representing a small sect in the gay community that causes very strong reactions from all sides. Gainers. If you’re out of the loop a gainer is just what it sounds like, someone who gains weight on purpose. They want to be big. In my experience, when the subject comes up, people tend to think it’s strange, weird, or gross. That’s fine and everyone is entitled to their opinion, but what I find truly fascinating is that a lot of these same people are also attracted to chubby guys. As if one has nothing to do with the other? Guess what, most people are fat because they eat to much and don’t exercises enough. (myself included) Yet there is an unspoken social rule that says if you’re fat you can be sexy BUT you shouldn’t want to be fat on purpose. If you’re trying to gain weight there must be something wrong with you.  Am I the only one who sees the irony here?
My good friend Stan once told me a story about the best way to pick up chasers: “When you’re a chubby guy, the easiest way to get a chaser is to act sky and pretend like you think you’re ugly. The more you pretend to have low self esteem the more they eat it up. Saying things like, ‘I don’t really like my body, I mean I could never get a guy like you…’ always seals the deal.” I know this is an extreme example and I can hear all the chasers starting to get offended, but I think there is still some truth to it. Again it goes back to that unwritten social rule: a big guy may be comfortable with himself, but if he ever had the choice he would choose to be skinny. The hot chub is seen as a victim of his circumstances and the proud chubby gainer is seen as a freak. 
After reading this, I know everyone is curious to know what my opinion is and if I am a gainer. I’ll give it to you straight:

First, I have no problem with gainers and I don’t think it’s weird. There was a time when I didn’t understand it until I made an important connection. Gainers have almost the exact same mentality as body builders. Think about it, both groups want more body mass. The only difference is once group chooses muscle and one chooses fat. Once I made that connection I understood it a lot more. If it’s considered ‘normal’ to spend most of your day in the gym and use illegal drugs just to gain muscle mass, why is it so strange to want to be fat? With regard to the ‘it’s not healthy’ argument, who amongst us is healthy enough to throw that stone in their big glass house?

As for myself, I don’t consider myself a gainer. I currently weigh about 270lbs give or take (I left my scale in Connecticut) and I don’t have any plans to change that in the near future. I do think I look better with more weight on my frame and I’m very comfortable with my belly. As I’ve said in the past, when I was in college I lost about 40-50lbs and got down to 180lbs which was my lowest weight as an adult. However when I lost the weight I realized that I didn’t like the way my body looked in the mirror. So while I didn’t gain the weight back on purpose, I did make a conscious decision to stop my workouts and loosen my strict eating regimen. So maybe I was a gainer before is was had a name. Gasp! I’m such a trend setter.

Spirit vs JetBlue

I haven’t posted in a while because I’ve been traveling for work and fun. The fun travel was a quick trip home for 4th of July festivities. I few from Dallas to Boston direct on Spirit Airlines’ redeye and when I flew home JetBlue was my airline of choice. As someone who travels a fair amount I wanted to share my impressions of these discount carriers. I wanted to give you some useful information so that you can make an informed decision the next time you fly. Let’s dive right in:

Spirit Airlines

I’ve flown Spirit twice now because they have a red eye (leaving at 1:30 am) flight direct to Boston that remains very cheap even if you book last minute. The best way to describe Spirit is that you get what you pay for. The fair is low but it’s no frills and everything is an extra charge. Carry on luggage, anything bigger then a backpack or laptop bag, is subject to a fee on top of the fee for checked luggage. Both times I’ve flown on Spirit it has been for a short trip so I was able to pack a backpack and avoid any carry on charges. Once you’re on the plane drinks or snacks are an extra charge because they don’t even give you the ‘one free soda’ like many other airlines. Like I said… no frills. The funny thing about Spirit is that they obviously purchased their plane for another airline because the seats have never been re-upholstered.  I also took advantage of their offer to pay $50 for seat with more room. When you pay the extra charge you get to sit in the first row (the first class seats on the old owner’s plane) which gives you more leg room and a much larger seat. This is a dream for any chubby boy with beefy arms and shoulders like myself. I also have personal space issues so I don’t like being pressed arm to arm with a stranger. There may be a lot of extra charges but sitting comfortably is a major plus.


Almost everything about JetBlue is the total opposite of Spirit. JetBlue just started flying from Boston to Dallas and they have a fresh new terminal at Logan Airport. When I checked in at Logan to fly home I opted for their $45 extra room seat. After I printed my boarding pass I headed to security. Much to my surprise, paying for extra room also gave me the privilege to going through the VIP security line normally reserved for pilots and crew members. That’s a great bonus. Once I got on the new and modern plane each seat had it’s own personal tv monitor with 40 channels of free cable tv. Like I said before, it’s the opposite of Spirit. They even gave out the standard free soda. All was good except for one thing. I assumed when I paid for the upgrade I would get the same size seat as I did on Spirit. Not so. When you pay for an upgrade on JetBlue it only gives the benefit of more leg room. The actual size (width) of the seat is the same. Therefore for the next 4 hours I sat watching Bravo on my tv with my shoulders pulled in.

Everyone reading this may have a variety of different priorities when they travel so you can make up your own mind. I will also mention that both airlines were courteous while providing a smooth ride and JetBlue’s price was only $40-50 more then Spirit. The choice between the two really comes down to price and the little extras that can make a world of difference. For my part, Spirit has a slight lead only because they offer bigger seats so I can sit comfortably. If you’re skinnier or don’t mind a lack of elbow room then JetBlue is great option.