Due to recent events, I thought it was a good time to give you an update on one of my more memorable posts. Big Love (October 12, 2011) discussed the newest fad of dating in multiples, i.e polyamory. Polyamory is the best umbrella term I can think of when discussing dating in multiples because each situation can be set up differently and have it’s own configuration. Triad is another useful term but it implies that everyone has an equal partnership when that’s not always the case. The most common type I’ve seen is when one person has two boyfriends. Although I did know of a few true traids. In the original post I mentioned 5 new polyamorous relationships and since then 3 of the 5 them have broken up. In addition, more polyamorous couples have formed in the last 7 months but they all have later disbanded. It seems like life has gotten in the way and the fad is quickly dying. In most cases one member has left the arrangement leaving a 2some although not always the original 2some. When I look at the breakups I have mixed feelings. In general I’m not shocked when a triad breaks up. It’s like hearing that a celebrity is getting a divorce… It’s never unheard of. Yet I was surprised at which couples have survived and which have called it quits. Some of the relationships I pegged to fall apart quickly have survived and vice versa.

I still wonder if deep down everyone in the arrangement is completely happy. Like I said, most of the triads I know are situations where one person has two boyfriends. Does the #1 boyfriend ever feel replaced or like a third wheel? Does the #2 boyfriend feel like he deserves more then being treated like a cock sucking boy toy? Does the man in the middle give a shit what either of them thinks? All good questions that I would love to know the answer to. It is possible that everyone is happy and enjoying life, but I suspect there are some deep cracks in the foundation that no one wants to acknowledge. Only time will tell if they repair the cracks or if everything crumbles.

I’ve never purchased anything from Amazon.com because it seems like a glorified flee market. No I don’t want to buy it used from Gary’s Gadgets. The same applies to Ebay.

Kristen Stewart wore a black lace Marchesa gown to the premier of Snow White and the Huntsman. Somewhere a stylist is being shot.

On The Big Bang Theory, Penny works at the Cheesecake Factory. I assume the restaurant pays for the product placement so why does the restaurant set look like the 90’s version of the Regal Beagle?

GCB was cancelled. God Dammit.

The TV Guide Network is trying to become a real network showing sitcoms minus the scrolling listings underneath. Their line up includes Caroline in the City, Designing Women, Ugly Betty, and Darma and Greg. My suggestions: Mad About You, Murphy Brown, and Perfect Strangers.

I’m starting to pack and get ready for my big move next week and I’m having to get rid of huge amount of stuff. I have yet to decide weather it’s cathartic or heart breaking.

Facebook’s IPO got a lot of buzz, but now that the company is trading publicly shares have had a roller coaster ride. That didn’t stop Mark Zuckerburg from marrying Priscilla Chan over the weekend though. She looked very pretty and he looked like a slob.

Moving has brought a tremendous sense of closure.

Adele’s cover of British Vogue was one of the worst selling covers in the magazine’s history.

I realized that Andy Cohen from Bravo’s Watch What Happens Live is Jack Mcfarland from Will&Grace. He starts out running a gay network and eventually is given his own late night talk show Jack Talk. 

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A while back at a party the subject of the ‘booty pop’ came up. I was stunned to find out that many of my friends had never heard of it before. A booty pop is when you thrust your ample ass checks out in a quick motion. It’s not to be confused with a ‘booty clap’ which occurs when you pop your butt out with enough force to make your ass checks clap together. In either case you need to have a big bouncy ass to make it work. Usually booty claps are only done by a fierce black girl wearing thongs. It’s rare to find any white person with enough junk in their trunk to pull off the move. Enjoy!

Azealia Banks is the newest female rapper giving Nicki Minaj a run for her money. Her first single 212 is out now. Give it a shot. I didn’t love it at first but it’s slowly starting to grow on me.

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My feet are big and have a striking resemblance to cement blocks. As you can see my feet are wide. EEE width to be exact. (Normal width is a D) That can make it challenging when I need shoes. I thank god that New Balance has consistently carried wide width sneakers. Dress shows however are a very different story. As wide as my feet are, they are also thick (with high arches). When I use the word thick, I mean the distance from the floor (or sole) to the top of my foot. Thick feet make it almost impossible to find cute work shoes. Let me correct myself, thick feet make it impossible to find ANY work shows. Another benefit of working from home was that I didn’t have to worry about any of this. I took the picture below in Nordstrom’s Rack and the black shoes are a size 12 Wide. That is as far as I could get my foot into it. Did I mention they were wide width? Not to be discouraged I shopped on. After 6 more stores I was discouraged. Dress shoes are not made to fit my feet and most times I can’t even get my toes past the laces. I wanted to get a pair of brown and blue Cole Haan wingtips but alas it was not meant to be. Usually I have to find the most appropriate casual shoes that are designed more like sneakers. I had to settle for ‘passable’ Ecco brand casual gray sneakers shoes. I’ll never be able to look dashing dressed up in a fancy suit with shiny wingtips. Le Sigh.

P.S. In case you didn’t know or notice, yes I have two webbed toes.