Cheers to one of the best season of Drag Race ever!
27. Adore quitting
26. Alaska’s kitten heel
25. Herstory of The World
24. Alyssa’s face mask
23. Katya reading Roxxxy
22. Alyssa vs Tatiana lip sync
21. Katya’s commercial
20. Elimination by lipstick
19. Roxxy’s redemption
18. Phi Phi’s Future of Drag Look
17. Tatianna as T-Boz
16. Alaska as Mae West
15. Katya’s pant suit
14. Detox’s latex look
13. Alyssa as Annie Oakley
12. Detox’s Future of Drag look
11. Alaska’s Future of Drag look
9. Tatianna’s spoken word
8. Alyssa’s camera dress
7. Katya’s latex look
6. Alyssa-isms: Beast and Rigamorris
4. I’ll Give You $10,000
3. The mirror revenge reveal
2. Alaska’s finale speech
1. The return of Lil Poundcake
Gifs via Fuckyeardragrace on Tumblr
I’ve found love for Trixie Mattel and Katya from their YouTube show UNHhhh. This is one of the funniest episodes. Enjoy.
What’s your opinion on cuddling with a trick?
I posed this question to a group of my married friends and most agreed that while it can be nice on rare occasion for the most part they’re not into it. As a married man myself my opinion fell in line with theirs. (I’m using married as short hand to refer to anyone in a relationship) The question came to mind because it seems like ‘looking for a cuddle buddy’ is becoming more and more common in profiles these days. I felt out of the loop because that is the last thing I’m looking for on Growlr. Cuddling has always felt much more intimate than sex. Sex is about hormonal urges while cuddling involves emotions and tenderness. I want to cuddle with Russ because I love him and it makes me feel wonderful. An attempt at that closeness would feel very awkward with a stranger. I started to wonder if the disconnect was between married and single men. I came up with a theory that although exceptions can always be found, it seems like single guys are looking for intimacy as much as sex while married guys just seek out a more unemotional physical connection. Several married friends even said they never cuddle because they don’t want to give the other guy the wrong impression and lead them to think there could be something more. I agreed with the sentiment and even considered adding “please no single guys” to my profile as a way of clarifying expectations but I decided I would probably get too much hate for it regardless of my honest intent.
The theory made sense on paper but I wanted to get more input from my single friends. I asked around and as the first couple responses from single guys came in the answers surprised me. The single guys were echoing the same sentiments as the married men. Cuddling is nice on a rare occasion but for the most part once the sex is over it’s time to go. My theory was starting to fall apart. Then I got a response from Felipe a wonderful guy in Florida. His first reaction was to ask me to clarify the word trick. It was a good question because while I meant the word as short hand for a hook up I realized that it does bring with it the connotation of a late night meaningless encounter. He along with several other single guys pointed out that the question was not that black and white. My theory was a little too simple for a situation filled with nuance. Using the word trick implied meaningless sex and therefore the responses of no cuddling from the single guys made sense. However a few guys took it a step further and pointed out that it all depended on the type of connection there is with the other person as it’s all very situational. For example if you spend most of the night chatting and getting to know each other at bar which then leads to sex, cuddling is much more likely to happen because you’ve invested a little more time in it. Whereas if your only interaction consists of sharing stats and pictures then cuddling feels weird and out of place. It wasn’t so much that cuddling was based on relationship status it was actually based on the type of s you were looking for.
After talking to several guys I came to a conclusion. My original theory that it’s mainly the single guys who want cuddling was true but it didn’t tell the whole story. Married guys tend not to want cuddling because the only sex they are usually looking for is of the hot and heavy unemotional variety because they get their intimacy needs met at home with their partner. Single guys on the other hand don’t look for just one kinds of sexual encounter. They too can look for an unemotional session where no cuddling is allowed but they are also just as open to meeting someone to develop something more where cuddling is approved. The problem is that we’re all mixed in together and our intentions and expectations aren’t always clear to the other person. A single guy hooking up with a married guy can be a recipe for miscommunication unless both men are honest and upfront. Going forward when I see a profile that says “looking for a cuddle buddy” I’ll still assume the person is single but I’ll also take it as a sign that we’re probably not a good match for something casual regardless of relationship status. Yes single guys can have unemotional fun but I tend to play the odds and why lead someone on unintentionally. Just like being fem when the other guy only wants butch, everyone isn’t always a good match for everyone. With no fault on either of us it just means deep down we’re probably looking for different things. The trick is to be clear about it. Next time you’re discussing positions, inches, and safety maybe it’s a good idea to also include a question about cuddling. Are you cuddle4cuddle?
Thank you to Felipe, James, Norbert, Eder, Justin, Jeff, Henry, and Fred for giving your input.
After season 4 Phi Phi was clearly hated by Drag Race fans for being the bully to super star Sharon Needles. Coming back to All Stars Phi Phi’s main goal apart from wining the crown was to rehab her image. I think she was so focused on trying to manipulate the situation in her favor that she’s forgot to have fun and focus on the challenges rather than the outcome. Roxy Andrews is a perfect example of the best way to improve your image. I’d argue that after season 5 Roxy Andrews was more hated than Phi Phi ever was. Phi Phi’s rival Sharon Needles fought back which made for great tv. Roxy was going up against Jinx Monsoon who never fought back and therefore the whole thing came off as severe bullying. Coming into All Stars I think both queens had the same goal of fixing the public’s perception. Roxy has done a great job coming off as fun and likeable and I suspect everyone has all but forgotten her past image. For some reason Phi Phi can’t seem to climb out of that mean girl role. If she wants to come off as nice why is she constantly harping on Alyssa for going against their pack? Let it go and move on because by continually bringing it up she’s only giving the producers what they want. On top of all that she’s on social media constantly stirring the pot. Her edit isn’t as good as she wanted but it’s not horrible. It kind of reminds me of a the edit Ginger Minj got on season 7. Ginger came off as kind of bitchy but not the devil. When she returned to All Stars she laughed it off rather then constantly bring it up. Phi Phi forgets that the public, especially social media, has a short memory for these things and as soon as a new season starts the past is quickly forgotten. Does anyone still hate Acid Betty? Has anyone thought about Acid Betty since season 8? If Phi Phi had thought this out she would have laughed off her previous image and not constantly revisit it. Stop reminding us of who you used to be and show us who you are now. As much as the producers can manipulate the show they can’t make you say things you didn’t say. While I’m sure there is a lot of blame to share with the show Phi Phi needs to acknowledge her own flaws.
After last week’s episode Phi Phi had a mini breakdown on Twitter announcing that she will not be attending the reunion because the producers again manipulated her image. She even blasted RuPaul’s recent Emmy win. I don’t doubt that some fans are hard on her especially since she’s the resident bad girl again this season. However something didn’t sit right about the whole thing. After four episodes the tone hasn’t changed all that much. Why now? If anything this episode started to redeem her a bit because she finally did well and reached the top 2 which indicated that the tides might be turning in her favor. Regardless she broke down on Twitter claiming to have locked herself in the bathroom crying because the producers had manipulated her so much. Amongst the tweets she also announced that her new album had come out that day under her boy name. There is was, that was the missing link that made all her bullshit make sense. Not only did that cancel any sympathy I had for her but I also now question all of her motives and cries for of sorrow.
Looking at everything through this new skeptical lens I think I can put together what happened. Phi Phi probably didn’t make the top 3 and overall wasn’t as successful on All Stars as she wanted. In fact I suspect she goes home soon if not on the next episode.That would explain why her breakdown was timed with episode 4 which wasn’t that bad to her. She knew she had to get attention soon because her time on the show was almost over. In the year since filming (the show was filmed in August 2015) she decided to move away from drag and instead try and start a singing career as a boy. It seems she also decided to use her edit and manipulation to her advantage and thus exaggerated her hurt feelings as a tactic to get attention. This would also distance herself from the show so that people would take her more seriously as a boy singer. Unlike Alaska whose album announcement and show appearance had perfect symbiosis, Phi Phi’s attempt at making up drama as a PR move just came off as pathetic and manipulative. Hopefully it’s worth it because that bridge is burned beyond repair. Instead of rehabbing her image Phi Phi just cemented it and made herself the butt of years of Drag Race jokes.